Then cams lockdown and honestly it was a relief to not see her anymore and she couldn’t blame me for it (we live separately). Im not in contact with any of my ex's as such, some im friends with on facebook. It started great and then went bad quickly. Don’t let anxiety get to you while you are “waiting” to hear from your ex. So it is not that no contact did not work if you have not heard from your ex. At this stage, you need to operate on the firm belief that you will NEVER hear from her again. Oh, apart from a Dear John at my workplace, He ended our 4 year entanglement over the phone. In some cases, dumpees will never hear from their dumpers again. Dumpees are initially petrified of never hearing from their exes again. Post-Breakup Contact: Talking To Your Ex After The Breakup. I dated a girl for nearly 3 years and it was absolutely heaven for both of us for the first year or so. I also spoke to dumpers, looked and browsed through various forums and conversed with dumpees from all over the world to provide the most accurate information I possibly can. They may reappear, however. January 7, 2009 in Healing After Break Up or Divorce. I was with someone for three years once, we broke up, talked once in a while for a month, then one day for no reason(I'm sure their is one but I don't know it) she flipped out and told me all the things she hated about me and never talked to me again. I would like my ex to contact me too but I think we should try to let it go Misskitty16,is not worth it.My and your ex arent acting much nice with us by ignoring us and so we should stop caring about them.They showing no consideration for our fellings and so we shouldnt want somebody like that in our lives.WE DESERVE BETTER. but i have decided to do the "no contact" thing, mainly so i can see if it will give him time to think and possibly contact me at a later time. 20 comments. I tried the NC and sporadically tried to connect with him. Sometimes I think it's for the best to cut off contact completely once you have broken up with someone, staying in contact just complicates things and prolongs the agony.. my ex wanted to be friends immediatley after splitting and was shocked wen i said i couldnt. I texted him a few times since then. Ask her many questions and try to really understand the girl. Please keep in mind that if you never hear from your ex-partner again, your ex will indirectly give you the cure to stop dreaming about your ex coming back to you. Otherwise, you’ll be left feeling empty and betrayed again. I liked her so much, I couldn’t run away. × I guess I would refer to myself as the “dumpee” in my situation. I finally told her that I would work on these things and that I appreciated the time with her. Just because you’ve told your ex this or that, doesn’t mean you won’t ever hear back. Is it really over?! We still talked etc on 9/12/20 he ghosted me after his sister asked him about pain pills. More upset about us not talking. My ex girlfriend and I dated for three and a halve years and we lived together for six months. in the past week ive realised i think this will be me. I’m sure you can think of many other promises your ex failed to fulfill. I'm 100% i will never hear from him ever again. Ask her honestly to tell you why she left, if she has feelings for her ex, if she is seeing other guys. His or her lack of presence will allow you to stop holding on to high/unrealistic expectations of your ex that may or may not ever manifest and help you let go of him or her quicker. Or have you never heard from them ever again? Not many guys get to see the behind-the-scenes progression a woman can go through after a breakup. Rachel on January 9, 2009 at 1:28 am . Twitter. If you’re wondering “will I ever hear from my ex again,” I may have some good news for you. 90.7% is a good possibility! According to my survey, dumpees’ chances of hearing from their exes were the highest in the first half of a year. But this is more often than not far from the truth and you will find out why. My girlfriend I was telling you about earlier, her man is very much a manipulator and even made her start to dislike a friend she has known almost her whole life because he didn’t like her. Clear editor. never heard from that crazy bit(h again thank human!! ... 150 pounds bigger, and 5 inches shorter than me and I blew up on her, as I obviously dont wanna hear about the dude she cheated on me and left me for. A full-on communication stop after a breakup is rare these days. 25. Wow. Knowing what your chances are with your ex, likely won’t make you feel much better. The best thing to do is go NC immediately! Begging basically to not make this decision now when angry but to give time to think it over. Eventually, she started being very manipulative and disrespectful. i know, i know, it should be a blessing. Have you ever experience your ex reaches out to you after long time has passed? It happened something similar with me. To round it up, we can confidently say that every 10th person is not going to hear from their ex again. Either for when she spoke in English or when we talked in her native language. I think it's selfish of my ex to contact me, just to boost his own ego. Thank you. I left him 7/31/20 for that specific reason. 100% Upvoted. Ultimately these things are for me. I have a few exes that I have never talked to after we broke up, and for the most part it's the way I would prefer to do it. You may really want to get back together with your ex but the fear and anxiety don’t have to control your life. A weird thing I’ve found is that I can’t remember her voice at all. Part of the healing process is disassociating him in my life. The thought of being abandoned and forgotten hurts them greatly. In fact, no contact will often give you the opportunity to be able to reach out and your ex be a receptive audience. By Alice, 9 years ago on Breaking up. As for the ending, it was a mutual ending I guess. Yep. I just started dating someone new, and it's tough having all that crap he did to me in the back of my head. When he does get to see you he can’t keep his hands off of you. Again, don't respond if you're currently drinking. I guess this really only applies to people who have been NC for 6 months or longer as that’s pretty long already to not hear from someone. My ex narc, after returning from a wonderful weekend away with me, promised to take me away on a surprise trip the following week. The lie nearly killed me as he was hell bent on honesty. reply #14. And for your persona to change for the better, your ex will need a lot of time. Does a lack of contact on your ex's part mean that he or she is finally through with dating you, and that your relationship is completely and permanently over? I heard from all my exes at some point, whether I was the dumper or the dumpee but I never got back together with any of them. We had our disagreements, little fights but no major deal breakers such as violence, lying, cheating ever happened between us.. Haven’t heard from her it’s been 6 months although I did send a sympathy card a couple months ago when I learned her father died, Hey Zan, So, if you want your ex back for real and you want her back quickly, don’t waste time apologizing to her over and over via texts, e-mails, social media messages or letters. My ex nd me is broken up for 7 months now.. after breakup he was reaching out to me after every 21 to 30 days.i always completed my no contact nd never text him by myself.after completion if no contact I would reply him but he would talk me nicely for a day but after that again he used to start blame game.months passed by with the same routine from august upto … make sure you get as much contact and support with and from others as possible. I actually started feeling happy and like my old self again. 25. Obviously, I can never say never, and I suppose it's always possible until one of us dies that I could hear from him, but since it's been 8 months, I'm now working with the assumption that I will never hear from him again and that our last conversation (which was brutal) was the last time we'll ever talk to each other. Some of the hardest things to part with … Did you end it or did she? I was with my ex for 4yrs and have been broken up for a bit over 1yr. Yes. So, with lockdown etc I decided to retrain job wise and also applied for jobs overseas. 2. But fortunately, the odds of that happening are small. 35,958 36.0K. Towards the end, I just wanted out, but every time I tried to end it she really scared me with some of the stuff she said she’d do. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Things were good (at least, I thought so) but she kind of blindsided me and broke things off. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. In my case, he lives in another country but probably because he studies in my country he will go back here again after the pandemic to finish his studies. Knowing you're never going to talk to you ex again. Statistics Look Good!”. You cannot look backward any longer. I am now 46 very attractive … If it comes back to you, it’s yours. That’s why it took some dumpers longer than others to reach out to their exes. 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